JOURNAL EXERCISE #1
Think of yourself at a particular time in
your childhood (e.g., age 10). Using the
model from Urie Bronfenbrenner,
reflect in your journal about the following:
microsystem
Describe
your family.
your school and teacher.
your peer group.
the media - favorite TV shows,
books, movies.
your surrounding community.
mesosystem
Describe
how your parents interacted
with your peers.
how your parents interacted
with your school.
whether your parents helped with
schoolwork.
how your community supported
your school or activities (e.g., sports).
exosystem
Describe
your parents' jobs.
vacations you took.
whether there was a divorce in your
family.
macrosystem
Describe
your ethnic heritage.
your religious affiliations.
whether you lived in an urban
(city) or rural (country) setting.
your social class (poor, working
class, middle class, wealthy).
what was going on in the world at the time (e.g., Vietnam war, who was
president, etc.).
Journal
Exercise 2
If
possible, interview your mother and father (if this is not possible, try an
aunt or uncle or a grandparent) about your own prenatal development. Use the following questions to get you
started.
Was
this a planned pregnancy?
Was
this your first baby?
How
did you find out you were pregnant?
How
did you feel?
Were
you working?
When
did you see a doctor?
Did
you take vitamins?
When
did you start feeling the baby?
When
did you begin wearing maternity clothes?
What
changes did your body go through?
What
are some of the strongest memories you have of this pregnancy?
Did
you have any prenatal tests?
How
did your lifestyle change?
Did
you smoke? Drink alcohol? Drink coffee or tea? Take any drugs?
Did
you know the sex of the baby before the birth?
Did you have a preference for a boy or a girl? How did you feel when you
found out the sex of your baby?
When
did you decide on a name for the baby?
Did
you attend any special classes or workshops about childbirth, nursing, etc.?
Did
you know of any preexisting conditions?
Where
were you living?
Were
there any features/characteristics you were hoping the baby would have? Were there any you were hoping the baby would not have?
How
much of your spouse's medical history did you know? In retrospect, how important would that have been?
What
role/expectations did you have for this child?
What
influenced your decision to have a child at this time?
Did
you have any trouble conceiving? Did you
expect to have any trouble getting pregnant?
Now,
reflect on what you learned. How do you
think your own pregnancy (or your wife's) will be (was) the same or different
than your mother's?
Reflective Journal Exercise #3
You may (a) consult with your parents about
your own birth, (b) interview a new
parent about the birth experience, or (c) consider the birth of your own child(ren). Please discuss the following in your journal:
1.
Describe the events leading up to the delivery. Where did the delivery take place? Who was present? Was any medication used? Was the birth experience as you expected it
to be?
2.
What was your initial reaction to the newborn? How soon were you able to hold the baby? When did you name the child? If you stayed in a hospital, describe your
experience after the birth.
3.
What were the first weeks at home like? What problems did you
experience? How was having a baby
different than you expected? Describe a
typical day at home during the first weeks after the baby was born.
Reflective Journal Exercise #4
If possible, write about your own first year
of life. (If this is not possible, you
can write about your own children, or interview another person about their
first year.)
Where did you sleep? Describe your typical sleeping pattern during
the first months (e.g., How many naps did you take? When did you begin to sleep through the
night?). Were you breast-fed or
bottle-fed? Why? For how long? When were you introduced to solid food? Were you allergic to any foods? Were you overweight, underweight, or average
weight at one year old? How old were you
when you: rolled over, sat up, crawled,
cruised, walked alone? What were some of your favorite toys? Why do you think this is so? (You might want to include some photos of
yourself from this period.)
Reflective Journal Exercise #5
If possible, ask your parents to help you
write about your cognitive development during the first two years. (If they are not available, you can write
about your own children or interview a parent of an infant.) You can use the following questions to help
you reflect.
What were your first words? What is your earliest memory? How old were you? Was there a game you particularly liked to
play, such as peek-a-boo or patty cake?
What were your favorite books?
How did your parents try to stimulate your intellectual growth? Was your IQ ever tested? Was more than one language spoken at
home? If so, which did you prefer to
use?
Reflective Journal Exercise #6
How would you describe your own
temperament? If possible, ask your
parents or someone who knew you when you were an infant about your temperament.
Were you an easy child, a difficult
child, or a slow-to-warm-up child? How
stable has your temperament been over the course of your development? If you had brothers or sisters, how different
or similar were your individual temperaments?
Do you think temperament is inherited?
How do other individuals (your parents, siblings, grandparents, friends,
teachers, etc.) react to your temperament style? What have been the advantages and
disadvantages of having your temperament?
Do you think there is a connection between your temperament and how your
body feels during emotions (for example, if you are shy do certain situations
make your body feel uncomfortable)
Reflective Journal Exercise #7
It’s hard for grownups to
imagine themselves as little children or what their life was like then (let alone
remember). Write an essay titled “When I
Was a Preschooler...”. Listed below are a number of questions to
help you recreate your life as a preschooler.
You might have to ask a parent or relative for some of the answers. Feel free to include other relevant
information or stories about yourself.
As you reflect back or find out about your life as a young child,
consider how those early days might have influenced your development.
1. Where
did your family live when you were a preschooler? Who was living in the house? Did you share a bedroom? With who? Did you have a “going to bed” routine? Can you describe it?
2. What
was your favorite toy? Story? Game?
3. Describe
one of your preschool birthdays. Who was
there? What presents did you get?
4. Recreate
an early Christmas or holiday. Do any of
the family traditions still occur today?
If you have children, do you carry on these traditions for Christmas or
a holiday in similar fashion?
5. Did
your mother work? Did you go to
preschool or have babysitter? When did
you first write your name? Is there a
copy of it somewhere?
6. Do
you recall any special event, pleasant or traumatic, that happened to you or in
your family between two and six years of age?
How might this have affected your later development?
7. Who
was your closest friend? Describe a
common activity you played.
8. What
was your health like? Any
serious illnesses? Did you have
any food preferences?
9. Ask
someone to describe your personality and some of your typical behaviors.
10.
Try to describe your earliest memory.
Reflective
Journal Exercise #8
Reflect on your
early childhood years. What style of
parenting did your parents use? Did both
parents use the same style or were they different? Explain your answers, using examples. How has your parents' style affected the
person you have become? How has their
style of parenting affected how you plan to discipline your children?
Reflective Journal Exercise #9
The purpose of this exercise is to reflect on the influence of family characteristics on your socialization and development. What socioeconomic status was your family? On what do you base your answer? What ethnic group(s) did your family identify with? List any values, beliefs, attitudes, holidays, foods, etc. supported by your ethnic group(s). What religion did your family practice? Describe the effects of that religion on your school years. How did your family feel about education and future goals? Were they supportive? Did you experience any school difficulties (e.g., poor or failing grades, behavior problems, truancy, etc.) during your elementary school years? How did your family react to these? How do you think your upbringing affects how you plan (or already do) to raise your own family?
Reflective Journal Exercise #10
Think back to your elementary and junior high years. How would you describe your social competence? Were you a high or a low status child? Did you play predominantly with high or low status children? Were you popular? Think of a popular child in your school and an unpopular child (first names only!). Describe the popular child. Make sure to consider the characteristics that contributed to that child's popularity. Describe the unpopular child. What characteristics contributed to this child's unpopularity?
Reflective Journal Exercise #11
Body image (how you think you look to other people) is an important part
of your self-concept and self-esteem.
This is especially true during adolescence. Because of the rapid changes taking place,
many adolescents are dissatisfied with their bodies. Think back to high school. How did you feel about your body? Use the following to help you reflect on how
you felt about how you looked and whether this had any effect on how you felt
about yourself and how you dressed and behaved.
Try to imagine yourself on a typical day in high school.
Compared to others, how did you feel about your:
weight
breasts
muscles
ears
hips
legs
nose
hair
eyes
face
clothes
posture
nails
athletic ability
skin
teeth
smile
sexual activity with a date
How do you think these early adolescent
feelings have affected how you feel about yourself now?
Reflective Journal Exercise #12
Think back to your
adolescence and identify the groups
and individual people that had the
most effect on
your sense of identity and self. Using Marcia's identity statuses (Identity
Achievement, Moratorium,
Identity Foreclosure, and Identity Diffusion), identify which
categories you experienced in high school and the
order you went through them.
Reflective Journal Exercise #13
In your journal, reflect on your college experience.
What are your goals? When did you decide to go to college? Why did you choose this college? Who is paying for your education? Is this your first time in college? If you are older than 20, why did you delay going to college? What difficulties are you experiencing? What is your impression of the chart in your text on p. 471? How is college like what you expected it to be; how is it different? What conditions would make college a better experience for you?
Reflective Journal Exercise #14
According to Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love, there are eight types of love possible, depending on the combinations of the three elements: Intimacy, Passion, and Commitment. Reflect on your life as a child, an adolescent, and an adult. Have you experienced all eight types of love in your life? Describe these relationships. Do you consider all of them "love," in other words, do you or did you say about that person, "I love them"?
1. Nonlove (all three missing)
2. Liking (intimacy)
3. Infatuated love (passion)
4. Empty love (commitment)
5. Romantic love (intimacy and passion)
6. Companionate love (intimacy and commitment)
7. Fatuous love (passion and commitment)
8. Consummate love (intimacy, passion, and commitment)
Reflective
Journal Exercise #15
Think of your current lifestyle. What health habits do you follow that will enhance the quality of your life and your longevity? What health habits do you need to acquire to live longer and healthier? Why do you and other adults find it so difficult to follow good health habits? What can you do to help yourself change these poor habits? Do you have any family history of disease or early death that would encourage you to do so?
Reflective Journal Exercise #16
Think about your personality.
According to McCrae and Costa, some basic elements of our personality do
not change over the lifespan. These five
factors are described in the following chart:
FACTOR |
LOW SCORE |
HIGH SCORE |
Neuroticism |
calm, relaxed, satisfied with self,
clear-cut personality, prides self on objectivity |
thin-skinned, basically anxious, irritable,
guilt-prone |
Extraversion |
emotionally bland, avoids close
relationships, overcontrol of impulses, submissive |
talkative, gregarious, socially poised,
behaves assertively |
Openness |
favors conservative values, judges in
conventional terms, uncomfortable with complexities, moralistic |
values intellectual matters, rebellious,
nonconforming, unusual thought processes, introspective |
Agreeableness |
critical, skeptical, shows condescending
behavior, tries to push limits, expresses hostility directly |
sympathetic, considerate, warm,
compassionate, arouses liking, behaves in a giving way |
Conscientiousness |
eroticizes situations, unable to delay
gratification, self-indulgent, engages in fantasy, daydreams |
behaves ethically, dependable,
responsible, productive, has high aspiration levels |
Source: McCrae, R. R. &
Costa, P. T. (1990). Personality
in adulthood.
Using the data from the online test, describe your personality. Do you think it has been this way since you
were young? Do you believe you will stay
this way the rest of your life? Explain
why you agree or disagree.
Reflective
Journal Exercise #17
Complete the “Longevity Questionnaire”. Discuss what you learned. Will you live to be 100? Do you agree with all the areas purported to be associated with living long? Why or why not?
CALCULATING YOUR LONGEVITY
Respond to each item honestly, and sum the various positive and
negative factors to arrive at the appropriate number of years more (or less)
than average you are likely to live.
PUT YOUR BEGINNING LIFE EXPECTANCY HERE (FROM HANDOUT 17-4) _________
For each grandparent who lived past 80, add 1 year. _________
For each grandparent who lived to 70 but not 80 add 1/2 year. _________
If your mother lived past 80, add 4 years. _________
If your father lived past 80, add 2 years. _________
For each grandparent, parent, or sibling who died of any type of heart
disease before age 50, subtract 4 years. _________
For each such relative dying of heart disease between age 50 and 60,
subtract 2 years. _________
For each such relative who died of diabetes or ulcers before age 60,
subtract 3 years. _________
Women: for each sister or mother
who died of breast cancer before
age 60, subtract 1 year. _________
If your intelligence is superior,
add two years. _________
HEALTH HISTORY
If your mother was younger than 18 or older than 35 at your birth,
subtract 1 year. _________
If you are the first born in your family, add 1 year. _________
Women: if you have had no
children (or plan no children) subtract
1/2 year. _________
If you have an annual physical exam, add 2 years. _________
Go to the next page.
CALCULATING YOUR LONGEVITY (cont'd)
CURRENT HEALTH
If your weight is 10-30 percent above ideal weight shown in standard
tables, the amount you must subtract depends on your age and gender.
For women, subtract 5 years if you are between 20 and 30; 4 years if
you
are between 30 and 50, and 2 years if you are over 50. For men, subtract
10 years if you are between 20 and 30, 4 years if you are between 30
and 45,
and 2 years for any age over that. _________
If your weight is more than 30 percent above standard tables: Women,
subtract 6 1/2 years if you are between 20 and 30, 5 years if you are
between 30 and 50, and 4 years thereafter.
Men, subtract 13 if you are
between 20 and 30, 6 if you are between 30 and 40, and 4 years
thereafter. _________
If your diet is genuinely low in fat and sugar, and you never eat
past the feeling of fullness, add 1 year. _________
If you smoke 2 or more packs a day, subtract 12 years; if you
smoke 1-2 packs a day, subtract 7 years; if you smoke
less than 1 pack a day, subtract 2 years. _________
If you never drink, neither add nor subtract; if you are a
heavy drinker, subtract 8 years; if you are a moderate
drinker add 3 years, if you are a light drinker, add 1 1/2 years. _________
If you do some aerobic exercise at least 3 times a week,
add 3 years. _________
If you sleep more than 10 or less than 6 hours per night,
subtract 2 years. _________
If you have intimate sexual relations once a week or twice
a week, add 2 years. _________
If you have a chronic health condition (e.g., high blood pressure,
diabetes, ulcer, cancer) or are frequently ill, subtract 5 years. _________
YOUR CURRENT LIFE
If you have 4 or more years of college, add 3; if you have 1-3 years of
college, add 2; if you have completed high school and gone no
further, add 1; if you have less than an 8th grade education,
subtract 2. _________
Go to the next page.
CALCULATING YOUR LONGEVITY (cont'd)
If your occupation is at a professional, technical, or managerial
level,
add 1 year; if you work at unskilled work, subtract 4. _________
If your family income is above average for your education and
occupation, add 1 year; if it is below average, subtract 1. _________
If your job is a physically active one, add 2; if it is sedentary,
subtract 2. _________
If you now live in an urban area and have lived in urban areas
most of your life, subtract 1; if you have spent most of your
life in a rural area, add 1. _________
If you are married and living with your
spouse, add 1. _________
If you are separated or divorced, subtract 9 if you are a man,
4 if you are a woman. _________
If you are widowed, subtract 7 if you are a man, 4 if you are
a woman. _________
If you are a never-married woman, subtract 1 year for each
decade unmarried past age 25. _________
If you are a never-married man and living with family, subtract
1 year for each decade unmarried past 25; if you live alone,
subtract 2 years for each decade unmarried past 25. _________
If you have at least two close friends in whom you can confide,
add 1. _________
If your personality is noticeably aggressive and hostile and you
feel regularly under time pressure, subtract 2-5 depending
on how much the description fits. _________
If you are a calm, relaxed, easygoing person who adapts well
to whatever happens, add 1-3 depending on how well the
description fits. _________
If you are a basically happy person and have a lot of fun, add 2. _________
If you have had an episode of being depressed or very tense,
guilty, or worried that lasted as long as a year or more,
subtract 1-3 depending on how severe the depression was. _________
If you take a lot of risks, subtract 2; if you generally avoid risks,
add 1. _________
Handout 17-3
LIFE
EXPECTANCY TABLE
Your Age in 1989 White Black
Male Female Male Female
10 73.6 80 66.5 75.1
12 73.6 80 66.5 75.1
14 73.6 80 66.5 75.2
16 73.7 80.1 66.7 75.2
18 73.8 80.1 66.8 75.3
20 74 80.2 67.1 75.3
22 74.1 80.3 67.3 75.4
24 74.3 80.3 67.6 75.5
26 74.4 80.4 67.5 75.6
28 74.6 80.4 68.2 75.7
30 74.7 80.5 68.5 75.5
32 74.9 80.6 68.8 76
34 75 80.6 69.1 76.2
36 75.2 80.7 69.5 76.4
38 75.4 80.8 70 76.6
40 75.6 80.9 70.4 76.8
42 75.8 81 70.9 77
44 76 81.1 71.4 77.3
46 76.2 81.2 71.9 77.5
48 76.4 81.4 72.4 77.8
50 76.7 81.5 73 78.2
52 77 81.7 73.6 78.5
54 77.3 82 74.3 78.9
56 77.7 82.2 74.9 79.4
58 78.2 82.6 75.7 79.8
60 78.7 82.9 76.4 80.4
Source: Statistical Abstract of the
Reflective Journal Exercise # 18
How do you imagine you will handle your own successful aging after age 65? Will you gradually withdraw from the world to enjoy peace and solitude to do the things you want to do, like read or relax, according to the DISENGAGEMENT THEORY OF SUCCESSFUL AGING? Or do you imagine you will want to continue an active life full of socializing, volunteer work, being with family, going on trips, etc., according to the ACTIVITY THEORY OF SUCCESSFUL AGING? Tie your speculations into how you view your personality today. For example, are you a loner who prefers peace and quiet leisure activities like reading or watching TV? Or, are you an extrovert who only finds real happiness out with friends and doing some activity like dancing, or taking exercise classes? Try to paint a picture of your life at 65 or older.
Reflective Journal Exercise #19
Take the Death Anxiety Questionnaire. Add up your score. (Your score will be between 0 and 30.) According to Conte, Weiner, and Plutchik, the average score for most people, regardless of age, is 8.5. What was your score? Was it higher or lower than the average score these researchers found? Why do you think this is so?
The DAQ identifies four specific aspects of Death Anxiety: fear of the unknown (items 1, 2, 12, 14, and 15); fear of suffering (items 3, 4, and 5); fear of loneliness (items 6 and 7); and fear of personal extinction (items 10, 11, and 13). Items 8 and 9 stand alone as other aspects of death anxiety.
How did you score on each of the four aspects? Reflect on what you learned from this exercise.
Death Anxiety Questionnaire
For each of the following items, indicate you response according to the following scale.
0 1 2
not at all somewhat very much
_____ 1. Do you worry about dying?
_____ 2. Does it bother you that you may die before you have done everything you wanted to do?
_____ 3. Do you worry that you may be very ill for a long time before you die?
_____ 4. Does it upset you to think others may see you suffering before you die?
_____ 5. Do you worry that dying may be very painful?
_____ 6. Do you worry that the persons closest to you won’t be with you when you are dying?
_____ 7. Do you worry that you may be alone when you are dying?
_____ 8. Does the thought bother you that you might lose control of your mind before death?
_____ 9. Do you worry that expenses connected with your death will be burden to other people?
_____ 10. Does it worry you that your instructions or will about your belongings may not be carried out after you die?
_____ 11. Are you afraid that you may be buried before you are really dead?
_____ 12. Does the thought of leaving loved ones behind when you die disturb you?
_____ 13. Do you worry that those you care about may not remember you after your death?
_____ 14. Does the thought worry you that with death you may be gone forever?
_____ 15. Are you worried about not knowing what to expect after death?
Conte, H. R., Weiner, M. B., and Plutchik, R. (1982). Measuring death anxiety: Conceptual, psychometric, and factor-analytic aspects. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 43, 775-785.